Tuesday, 14 August 2012
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The power belongs to those who care the least?
I decided to revisit a recent post that felt like it was lacking in clarity.... (I kept some of my wording so it might be familiar - at first.)It may seem: "the power belongs to those who care the least" - anonymous (can't find a source).
I beg to differ that this statement holds real truth. I think it is a perceived power, but not real. Ultimately I think the one with the security to put themselves in a place of vulnerability is indeed far more powerful than the one who lacks care, compassion and love. It takes a lot to be strong enough to be transparent. To offer yourself and love to others who do not value it.
If caring about someone means that when they don't care in return they assume power over you then it's not really power if you didn't allow it to ruin you.No person can control you unless you allow them to, at least in the sense of caring for others. And when you know who you are, you can find the heart of the issue, rather than the hurt the other person is enforcing.
To me, confidence, assurance and humility.... these are the true power. These are the things it takes to love without remorse, to give yourself without fear. These are the things we need to change the world with love.I was told, "use wisdom in who you share yourself with." I disagree. I find that the true wisdom is being secure in myself and always looking for the other persons heart in their misplaced actions. I don't think I need to judge if a person is out to hurt me... I can handle their insults even if they are,because - I get stronger each day that I am aware of myself, even the things that are not good yet.
I have recently realized, the more I know who I am, the more I am free to be open, transparent... vulnerable. This is where I find the power to perceive life... people. This authentic way of living where all masks are destroyed offers the most significant growth. It allows us to delve into even the darker parts of us that need light shed on them. A mask simply covers these areas. We fail to offer our short-comings in hopes we will be accepted by the things we want to define us - talent, goodness, beauty. We leave well enough alone doing our best to polish those things in us that are easy to accept. I don't wish to do this. I want to be seen, fully, if possible. I want to get rid of the ugly truths, change them to beautiful aspects of my character. Iron sharpens iron...I have to reveal me, in all instances... to be better.
I urge you, be all of you that you can be. Don't fear rejection. Find your inner peace, calm... place of power. (Mine is in Christ alone.) Love without remorse... give yourself fully to all people, not those whom you have judged worthy of your time. Don't hide, be real... truthful. Authenticity is the power to be vulnerable... to put yourself in a place others are afraid to go.Vulnerability for the sake of being taken advantage of offers nothing, but vulnerability for the sake of growth - this is powerful and there is a difference.
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Comments (15)
Humility needs to be thrown in there somewhere as well :) This was a very nice reminder that those who expect to do great things need to go out and make great things happen.
@jmallory - I thought humility was a given... but agree entirely!
@jmallory -
after re-reading, it could have been inserted here : To me, confidence, assurance and humility.... these are the true power. These are the things it takes to love without remorse, to give yourself without fear.These are the things we need to change the world with love.
@xXrEMmUsXx - That was exactly where I first thought of it!
@jmallory - well then I think a little edit is in order =] lol
Amen to all of the above! I will venture this small wondering, about the original quote - maybe what "care the least" really means (or implies) is "are least invested in the outcome." Finding that sweet spot beyond detachment "I don't care" to what is sometimes called indifference "I am willing to accept whatever comes." And there is undeniably great power - and joy - in that.
@gayXianmom - interesting insight,,, I need to chew on that!
@gayXianmom - Maybe that is why I care so much. I feel so invested in people... with every person having equal worth to God, i can't imagine not treating each on with the same love, acceptance and grace. Caring deeply for people because I am invested in the outcome of all mankind, of any and every person my life touches.
Dear Summer Lynn,
(I've been so sporadic on Xanga lately (2 years lately, but at my age, that's not really long LOL) I'm doing my "correspondence" and it's quite easy to get back in the groove.
Let's see.
Jacbear is a cutie. (And so are you.)
Your husband meant to write "dependable" instead of "dependent" on point 8 of From My Husbands Eyes.Really neat post.
Aug. 13th poem: "your shoulders broader than the weight of the world" "tomorrow can wait until we are done with today". You write some wonderful sentiments.
This entry: "It takes a lot to be strong enough to be transparent." You said it. This is an excellent essay. Each of us should be open, tolerant, giving, and strong. Our strength enhances our truth, and our truth enhances our strength.
God be with you, and bless you heart.
Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
Maybe it is true if everyone in your life is in jr. high.
@TheTheologiansCafe - I'm surprised how many middle aged adults live this way.
@Xcite_Media - Thank you, and thank you for the rec as well =]
@baldmike2004 - LOL, I did not want to correct the way he wrote it. haha... I thought the same thing however. =]
I only wish my sentiments had more meaning to my husband (had a rough night).
thank you for the thoughts on this post as well =]
Mike,
I can tell you respect a great deal those that take the time to know you and you also spend a good amount of your time discovering and learning from others. You intrigue me and i wanted to respond with a thoughtful 'correspondence' just to let you know I appreciate your efforts and admire your methods. I too love to discover people, it is one of the greatest joys of this earth, if not the greatest.
I have learned that you like you. This is a very good quality... so many people have so little love for themselves its easy to get distracted and even a little lost trying to make sense of who they are while they attempt to give themselves fully to others. I admire this quality in you. Your desire to be known, to leave something for other people to remember of you... I to have this need, this deep yearning for the same.
I have also learned that you like long responses, write lengthy posts and look forward to receiving the same!
I would venture to say that you have a lot to give and, even though, you like you, its important to receive the validation and response of others to solidify that you are, in fact, a good, decent human being with a worthy cause =].
Now, I have not taken the time, yet, to really look into your blogs - because, as you know, they are lengthy (lol)... so I may not know a whole lot about you yet, but I'm glad to have had this start to a friendship and look forward to discovering and learning more about you.
your 'new' friend,
Summer Lynn
this is exactly what I needed to hear.