I’ve got a load of questions here. I’m a little aggravated and trying not not to sound like a judgmental prude that is unaware of man’s nature and constant sex drive, but, truthfully, I’m somewhat disgusted by what men say about women in the company of other men.

Apparently I’m just ignorant and was unaware that it is not only okay, but unavoidable for men to discuss other women in sexual ways while in fellowship with other ‘guys’ – especially young single men. Forgive me for assuming my husband and others’ husbands would respect their wives and not speak in such raunchy ways about every piece of ass that walks in front of them *cough* I mean, every woman.

I wonder, men, if you consider how disrespectful it is to your wives to openly speak about sexual things you would do to these women if you ‘had the chance’. I wonder because I know that even though I’m confident and feel very secure that I can meet my husbands needs… it really sucks now to know that every time those bastards at his job look at me they probably don’t think he’s getting any or that there is something wrong with me that I’m not as desirable as that old lady with the saggy butt Johnny can’t stop talking about (he has an old lady fetish), I just don’t get it. I get that it happens. I don’t even expect him not to slip up, but I’m jut tired of hearing about it. I’m over it and I’m appalled.

Do you speak like this about other women? Do you consider it disrespectful? Do you tell your wives the things you say? Come on… fill me in because it’s possible I might just be totally misunderstanding what marriage is….

Tomorrow we are celebrating Jacson and Levi’s 2nd and 3rd Birthday at Chuck E Cheese. I have to make cup cakes, order the balloons and put the treat bags together for the kids. They are very excited, and so are we! I personally love playing the games there =]

Johnny apologized the other day. It was helpful. I’m glad I made it through and really only told Xanga what a mess I was for those couple of days. I’m glad that he is able to see his own issues right now though and that is worth the trouble in itself. He’s working on things and that means the world to me. Thank you for the encouragement and support through the rough days! Love you guys.

Tomorrow is my second weigh in for the biggest looser… but I may not be able to get back on here to update until Monday. It will be a busy weekend.

I feel like I had other stuff to say and I just can’t remember!

Oh, I find out if I’m getting another nephew or a niece on February 5th. Excited to hear the news.

Ahhh, its killing me… I know I’m missing something. – oh well… I’ll think of it later I’m sure.

I recently read a few books… studied a few things on organic church and found a lot of answers to some deep questions my heart has been circling for years. In this endeavor I have found that institutional church really has been coming up short to the vision I hope to see the Bride become (also believing it is God’s vision). Then I just end up feeling like a weirdo when nothing seems to point in that hope ever coming forward to fruition. It is a great burden and a lonely one. Organic church has not happened for me yet though I long for it to… I still know there is a reason, there is a rhyme to this season.

I just wish I could get to where I want to be, but its a process… a time to discover and be full of vision and cultivate passion. This is a difficult time, but one that will produce something only difficulties, blood sweat and tears can – the harder the season the more to be drawn from the trial.

God give me the visions people fear. Give me the passion only you know how to harness. Instill in me whatever it takes to fulfill your will of love and purpose in my life. I will dream for tomorrow and embrace today’s gifts. Let me be full of possibility as I bridal who I am in You in each moment I’m given.

I hope you read this article, I’d love to discuss it in the comments:
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It is necessarily lengthy… but offers the context of my beliefs on leadership and the 5 fold ministry – at least the start of it.

I could talk about beautiful things forever… YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Every single one of us holds the most beauty somewhere inside of us. Sometimes we just need someone to show us.

I’m hurt this morning. Not terribly, but I can tell I’m a little stuck in some painful thoughts and it could get worse if I don’t recognize that in this season of my life, I’m growing. I’m changing. I’m beautiful no matter who sees it or wants to be a part of my beauty.

It’s a hurtful realization when friends no longer consider you… when they fail to recognize you are beautiful because now you are a little different than you were before. Maybe I failed them first, maybe I was the one who didn’t want to be a part of them before they excluded me. I think I may have to admit, in my heart, that could be true. It has been a difficult year for relationships in my life. I have learned much, but I still need a few band-aids and a few more talks with God.

BTW – I did nail my GED. I went in to ‘study’ for it and aced all the pretests… so the next weekend I took it and only missed 3 questions total… I got perfect scores in a couple of the subjects. I know its just the Good Enough Diploma, but some people really struggle to study for that thing… I’m not ignorant, I was never taught the value of education. I had to learn that on my own as an adult after I missed out of my high school career.

Oh and, why the heck do I sometimes open one eye before the other? HAHA… oh my, these vlogs are revealing! lol

It’s time for me to get back to the grind. Time to focus in and get some of these questions answered as well as some open ended things I was studying but put to the side for a bit.

@jmallory has got me in deep thought with his recent blog about authority in the church. I think it was originally my question, it has just been a while since I thought about it myself.

Anyhow. I’m on a mission to finally finish ‘Reimaging the Church’. After reading Pagan Christianity it seems I’ve just undone all I know, swam around in the sea of questions and its about time for some clarity on the vision of the Body of Christ.

I am remembering what it felt like a little more than a year ago… before the shift in my theology. I had so many answers, I was so sure, so steadfast… there was nothing that could shake my faith, my theology, doctrine or denominational allegiance. I’ve always been inquisitive and somewhere along the way I reached the end of the answers I was looking for in my denomination. It wasn’t all at once, but seemed to be… things just weren’t lining up for me anymore. Biblically,  I could not defend some of the things I had once sworn by and taught as truth myself.

Well, I no longer have all the answers, I stopped feeling like my direct line to perfect truth was in tact and started actually carrying on as a human being, flawed and in need. Humility is what I like to call it. At first this place was terrifying. I had lost all that was secure and for sure, except my Christ… my Salvation. I remember mourning the loss of what once was, and even still do from time to time, but internally… so much has changed that is so good I never ever want to go back.

While all that I believe is very vague here (as if I could actually write it all?)… it’s safe to say I’m very secure in my questions… in this season. I’m at a unique place and I’m sucking out all the good I possibly can as I continue to prepare my heart for revolution… big changes and possibly reformation larger than I can even see right now.

As a believer, you might be reading this and think I’ve lost my mind… lost my way. I can assure you I haven’t lost either. I’ve always known that my calling was going to be challenging, lonely even…

This is where I always remember Joan of Arc – “I am not afraid, I was born for this.” – this will be part of a tattoo at some point in my life since its been in my heart since I was very young =]

Hey I totally forgot to upload this video from Christmas. My babies wanted to wish Xanga a Merry Christmas. This is Jacs and Levi with mommy =]