August 23, 2013
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The best sex of our lives.
So, I’ve never really considered myself a very sexual person. I’ve kept my flirting to just being sweet, but never saying anything that could be taken the wrong way. I suppose I’ve always had this sexual vibe about me… in a girl next door kind of way. I can tell when I’m wanted – for the most part. And I like to recognize that. It puts a pep in my step. Lately, the husband has been flirting with the girls in the office. I think it is absolutely adorable. I get plenty of attention from him, so I tell him to practice his game… everyone wants to know they are wanted.
Our marriage has grown quite a bit through the difficulties this year has brought. I think we are more secure than we have ever been. The thought of him actually being with another woman, doesn’t really scare me anymore. The jealousy has turned to admiration. He’s a sexy man, very desirable. I’m glad he’s finally learning that.
You may be wondering where I’m going with this, but I just wanted to talk out some things… and since you’ve followed my marriage sage this far, I thought I’d share the joys of where we are now. How beautiful the security and trust is that we have. He is my one and only… I’m his. We are fulfilled in each other and that is magical! Just the idea of him giving his attention to someone else is kind of playfully arousing. I’m always the first and last woman on his mind. I know that. I can see that, feel that… hear that in his voice. He loves me deeper than anyone ever could. He knows me in ways only a lover can. I’m safe in his arms. My heart is taken care of.
Since we’ve kind of giggled over our flirting adventures lately… we’ve drawn closer. It sounds kind of odd, I know. But after 8 years of marriage, I think you wonder if you’ve still got it. We both do! And we take it out on each other and are having the best sex of our lives! So… i thought I’d share!
How far do you take online flirting? Do you feel guilty? Are you jealous when another person is clearly into your lover? (we never hide it, never delete messages, never pretend or lie about it.)
Comments (18)
That’s awesome Summer! You guys have come such a long way.
i’m happy for you
I will say that flirting with anyone but your wife is a SIN and can lead to other things. Bro. Doc
That’s awesome, keep the flame alive.
I admitted to flirting with an Ace Hardware cashier once and my blogging friends chewed me out, so I took the No Flirt–No Lust pledge. So, I do not flirt. lol
I think it is charming about how you feel, and see my dear friend Bro.Doc has expressed a concern.
I know my wife has always been attractive to men. I only got jealous once. lol Long story.
You two sound cute.
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - we’re not jealous and find the strength of our marriage growing by recognizing that sexual attraction is natural, but the bond we have is the joy of our lives. When the natural feeling to be jealous rears at us… we admit it, and meet those insecurities with love and respect.
We don;t find flirting to be harmful… we’re not looking for replacements… I know other people with not agree. and that is more than ok. =]
I’m happy for you!
@xXrEMmUsXx - Nice to hear how you feel.
It’s good to feel loved!!!
I’m happy to see that you are both doing so well now
Everyone tells me that my husband and I are both naturally flirty. But we try to not be. He doesn’t because of where it has led to in the past, and I don’t because I don’t want there to be a double standard. If you guys can, that’s awesome. For us, it is just one of those things we have to exercise caution with.
wow, I had to read that twice . . . a good looking woman, open about her marriage and not jealous about her husband flirting? Wait, did I read that right? That is totally frickin aswesome, but I’m sure that would be many guys’ opinions. You’re right, it is nice to be wanted and after 17 years of marriage I’m beginning to wonder. Actually slept in the kids bed last night over a very minor infraction, so being wanted and just wanting to give the kids a good idea of marriage is making me wonder if I’m doing it just for them becuase I feel my benefits have gone out the door.
This is way more info than I normally share in an open forum but just had to get it out there and I would love love love to know someone like you in real life. Well, truthfully, I would feel bad flirting since I know the wife would only get more upset. As it is she thinks I have many girlfriends, but I have none whatsoever. I feel seeing pics and such is not the same as having a girlfriend. Not that you’re a therapist or anything but I think it would be nice to chat some. I certainly enjoyed reading this post, that is for certain.
I don’t get on here much, in fact I thought it was closed down but I did open a FB acct yesterday and had like eight requests, so I was relatively surprised at that. I think most of them were from Xanga too, so perhaps this community thing that Xanga had is still alive and well.
Ok, you take care, see ya around.
I agree. There’s something flattering to YOU when others think your man is hot, and vice versa!
I don’t care for Bro Doc’s approach. I do think it possible to flirt innocently when you’re flirting with people you’re familiar with. It’s the flirting with strangers which gives me pause.
As a person who left a life of sexual immorality at first I found women, Christian women, who flirted with me troubling. I think most of them knew I had a past in homosexuality, so it was sort of weird. I didn’t need flirting. My sexual chemistry set worked just fine. What I needed was to know how to do relationship. One of my best friends is a woman, and she’s never once engaged my sexual chemistry set. She’s a pretty lady, but there have never been sparks. Sexually broken people need relationship.
The problem is there are countless numbers of sexually broken, which really means badly relationally broken people. You and your husband have something you can give to others. The world needs relationships, and when two people have a messed up relationship, but work it out there is a lot to teach others. You might feel good about being wanted, but the world around you need couples committed to relationships, Christ, and to leading by example, through your better relationship with your husband. For those of us in Christ there is a higher and better calling.
Blessings,
Very thoughtful explanation. Good luck to you both as you embark on this new adventure.
I miss that security. My husband and I used to be like that until he took “flirting” way too far with one particular female “friend” of his. Now trust is completely shot. For both of us, which is odd since I’ve never crossed those lines, but I think he gets defensive and tries to find ways to bring me down to his level so that he can be off the hook. It’s unfortunate, because we used to have a very open and secure relationship, and now we’re both walking on eggshells which has not only affected us, but also our friendships with other people, because of the jealousy factor that he created. I miss not having to question everything.
Congrats to you that you’ve been able to make it work like that. Keep doing what you’re doing with the total openness and honesty about it. Good luck with everything!
Time to post a xanga 2.0 post!!!
YEP! Super excited!!! =] We made Donkey… we made it to the other side. Xanga 2.0. I have to admit I love it so far. but I’m one of those weirdos that gets all excited about change!
Yup! It is all new and shiny! I have to figure out what all the buttons and knobs do – and if they really work!