April 18, 2013
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Counseling
We have counseling tonight. It is our second one. Our homework was to list 10 things that we liked about each other in the beginning of our relationship. I could have kept going passed 10. =]
We have been doing well. It just really took me a minute to let go of some of the hurt his rejection has caused. Even though he has been working to help me heal, it wasn't happening fast enough. I feel better. But I'm still fearful of the same old, same old.
Honestly, his encouragement for me to run this marathon has been overwhelmingly special. He hasn't been much support. I've usually been the one cheering him on and then learning how to cheer myself on while I did things alone. To have him be proud of me and sincere, to work our schedules around my training and school, to finally feel like something that is important to me matters to him... I think THIS is the reason I'm finally softening up a bit.
I can say "I love you" again without feeling like I'm trying to make him feel better or like I'm just saying it because I love him like i love everyone else.
The passion isn't ignited in some momentousness way, but something feels special about 'us' again and I'm looking forward to continuing to nurture that.
Comments (17)
I am happy that the counselling is going well for you. I did not have marriage counselling, but I sought it several time due to depression. It helped me alot.Let us hope your husbnd responds well to this.frank
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - I actually don't like the counseling =[
@xXrEMmUsXx - sorry, but hope it works for you.
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - i think it might help just to keep talking through things, but I don't credit our 1 counseling session to anything that has changed in me this week. If anything the husband of the couple just really rubs me the wrong way... but I'm still going and will finish it out. Either way, it won't hurt any and it might help Johnny.
@xXrEMmUsXx - thanks for sharing. My wife and I went through some tough times.
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - Tough times make tough people =]
Yay! I am super happy progress is being made!
This makes me happy. I'm glad you getting more of the encouragement and support that has been lacking! I know that must be hugely special!
Hallelujah! Hopefully, there are more milestones to come!
This is good news. Even if the counseling isn't something you look forward to, I always say that anything that propels us forward is a good thing, even discomfort. I hope you continue to make progress by whatever means.
Hi, I saw you on the Top Blog section, and clicked on this blog. I can relate quite a bit to some of your marital troubles I think as I read a bit through your past posts, so I was hoping you wouldn't mind me adding and subscribing to you. Most of my blog posts are about my struggles with mental illness, so no worries if you don't want to subscribe back, I'm a little... crazy. But sometimes I talk about my issues with my husband.Everybody I know in person seems to project this awesome picture of perfect marriages and it's disheartening when my husband and I are struggling. So it's kind of refreshing to see we're not the only ones that aren't perfect and that help is out there and it's okay to seek it.I'm glad you all are doing even a wee bit better, and I hope it continues. Good luck!
Run Forrest Run! (Sorry!) Hope things keep improving!!!
I'm really glad that things are going better I hope that you are both able to continue healing.*hugs*
How did things go?
Always glad to hear good reports like this. I hope the counseling goes well.
@Donkey_Guy_10 - great. going to post =]
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